“Don’t let them people make you come out of character.”

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‘Out of character’ is a phrase used notoriously by black women to try to explain displays of public anger or hostility. Recently, during a girls' night out, my friends and I were discussing boundaries. After discussing an event that happened in which I had to establish a boundary with a person, my friend explained how she felt that I had ‘come out of character’ during the situation and didn’t feel that that was healthy and that it…